Consciousness

"In any relationship, whether it's a relationship with a mate or with a child, the most important aspect of our being is consciousness. That is what separates 'what is' from 'what will be.' For example, if you're holding back from fully loving the person, chances are they will mirror that energy back to you. On the other hand, if you are opening your heart and trusting, it is likely that the other person will be equally open. As kabbalists so often stress: consciousness is king. What we think is what we bring to ourselves."

by Yeshuda Berg, The Daily Kabbalah Tune Up